The problem in our nation right now is the feminization of our society and churches. Does that mean it is “the woman’s fault”? Yes and no.
We can go in circles about whether men or women are more to blame
for our spiritual and political issues today. It is clear that both men and
women are spiraling downward. Men are weak and cowardly, women are gruff and
rude. Men are abandoning their duties, and women are abandoning their duties,
trying to take on the duties of men in the name of “equality”.
But men and women are different. They are not the same, and
they are not “equal”. God made woman for the man, not man for the woman, 1
Cor. 11:8-9, “For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor
was man created for the woman, but woman for the man.”
If you hear this and think of some kind of twisted handmaid’s
tale depravity, repent. This is God’s holy word. But if you think that women
are not to be submissive to their husbands, and in general submissive and helpmeets
to men, you also need to repent.
Men have duties to women, especially to their wives to lead,
guide, protect, and provide, but also in general to women. This used to be
expressed in basic courtesies, holding the door open for women, holding an
umbrella over a woman in the pouring rain, serving as police officers and general
security and safety, governing in politics, etc.
Today its bigoted and sexist to say that men are designed by
God for these purposes, and women are designed to be domestic, in the home, under
the care of their fathers and then their husbands. But it is true. See Titus
2:3-5, “The older women likewise, that they be reverent in
behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that
they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to
be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the
word of God may not be blasphemed.”
This means you should raise your boys and girls differently.
Some have called this gendered or sexed piety. It’s a good description. Raise
boys to be masculine men as God designed and intended them to be, and raise
girls to be feminine women as God designed them to be. Raise your boys to rule
and lead and provide, and your girls to submit and follow and serve. Marriage
is a picture of Christ and the Church, where the husband represents the
headship and rule of Christ, and the wife the submission, devotion, and fidelity
of the Church.
The issue today is that all of this is regarded as hateful
and unfair to women. So we are feminized necessarily. Why? Because women cannot
be men, no matter what they try and how many body parts they chop off, how many
shots of testosterone they take, etc. Standards in the military and at work all
have to be lowered to accommodate the “weaker sex”, women, 1 Pet. 3:7.
Naturally, then, we expect less of men and more of women. And if men are
actually masculine and gruff, well, that’s intimidating and frankly “unfair” to
women in what ought to be male spaces today, and so all the sanctified sharpness
and ruggedness that’s actually needed of
godly men is smoothed and smothered out of them.
So men are blamed for all the problems today, yet are given
no authority to address the problem. If they begin to address the problem, they
are accused of being the problem and trying to domineer over women. And yet if
men do nothing, they are still blamed for being the problem. One who has responsibility
laid at his feet, without being given the authority to actually take
responsibility and fix problems, is in a hopeless, winless position.
That’s the way many men feel today, or they have already
emasculated themselves and join in the chorus of women and weak men to say that
men indeed are the problem, that women need to be promoted to more leadership
and power, etc.
Allie Beth-Stuckey, Rosaria Butterfield, Aimee Byrd, Beth
Moore, Jen Wilkin, and other such women in Christian circles are a prime example
of this. If I speak against them and say
they are sinning against their sex by being “public theologians” and Bible
teachers, many supposedly conservative men, many of them pastors, will rush in
to defend some or all of these women. Some might object to the teachings of
some of the latter 3 women I listed, but their critique is only in their
teaching, not that it is a woman teaching hundreds or thousands of adult men
and women in doctrinal and biblical matters.
People will then say, “well if what she’s saying is true, why
does it matter if she is a woman?” The accusation is “sexism” as if sexism is
bad. God designed the sexes differently. To deny this, to not be a sex realist,
then, is to functionally embrace transsexualism, transgenderism.
A man can become a domesticate, stay at home all day, wear
an apron, bake cookies, burp and change a baby, feed the baby a bottle of milk,
be gentle, submissive, kind, and compassionate. Would we say, “hey, as long what
he’s doing is good and helpful, what’s the big deal?” I think you know what the
big deal is. Do you want Bob to be your baby sitter? Do you want teenaged boys
to learn homemaking? Why not? Because it is a sin against their sex. There is
something perverse about it.
Obviously, sometimes men will help out and change a diaper when
necessity arises, and sometimes women will swing a hammer to hang a picture
rather than what for their husband to get home. We are talking about the
primary callings and domains of men and women, not where these things overlap
or intersect here and there. What is keeping with the nature of men and women
is what we are speaking about.
The reality is, men will not be able to step up and lead as
they ought to do in our current climate in church, state, society, and culture.
If men are to return to their place, women must return to theirs. Men are out
in the world, in the workforce, on the jobsite. Women are in their homes, with
their children, taking care of the house, homeschooling, tending the garden,
etc.
This obviously points to the desperate need for men and
women to marry young, be faithful to one another, be fruitful and multiply, and
do what God calls each of them to do. But we don’t preach that in our churches,
we even more rarely practice this faithfully when it is preached, and as was
already said, we are Egalitarians in our nation and even in most of our “conservative”
churches today.
So we think sending our girls off to college is just as
reasonable as sending our boys off to college (both seem unreasonable in most
cases to me today, but for women especially unless it is something local and
domestic oriented perhaps). We think getting married young is foolish, and
evidently going into massive amounts of debt at liberal and woke colleges is wise.
If you have been thinking and living this way, and realize
it is wrong but don’t know how to correct things or get out of the ditch you
are in, the first thing you need to do is simply repent. Confess your sin to
God, whether you are a young person just setting out in life, a middle aged
person who has gone astray, or an older person who is seeing the bad fruit in
your own life and perhaps sadly how you raised your boys and girls. Repent,
confess it to God, ask for His forgiveness, and He will grant it. Don’t let the
sinful flesh make you offended at God’s Word, or at me the messenger. We all have
many things to repent of in this life, daily, and the good news is that once we
see our sin and shortcomings, we can address it with God in repentance, and
through the blood of Christ He fully forgives our sin. That grace is a
tremendous comfort and relief to work from.
But once you have done this, you recognize you still have a
hole to dig out of, to one degree or another. Women may realize they have
missed the child-bearing years, or are near the end of that. That’s a tough and
sad situation, even as barrenness is. The best thing to do is to get married
and have children if it is still feasible, and if not, to make sure your work
and service is fitting to your feminine nature, in service to others as a
helper. And within the Church, you can certainly help serve along with the
other women, and help serve with the children.
For men, you likely have to fight against your own sin, and
the corrupt legal system that favors women and the feminization of men. Likewise,
if it is possible, get married to a woman (whom you may well have to form
because she has been brainwashed by our churches, colleges, politics, and
possibly even her own Christian parents to think she can and should do whatever
a man does) who shows something of a gentle and quiet spirit of service and submission.
Have a job and a vision and set purpose in life. Be sure to find a solid church
(not an easy task I know) to worship in and be involved with as a part of the
body of Christ. If marriage at your age is not an option, or children at least,
then do what you can as a man to be a man. Consider politics and the desperate
needs we have there. Trust the Lord, be faithful, repent of sin, and He will
forgive and provide.
I am not sure how you end feminization in our society. The
Scriptures tell us that when God judges a people, he gives women and foreigners
to rule over them. That is where we presently are.
“The alien who is among you shall rise higher and higher
above you, and you shall come down lower and lower. He shall lend to you, but
you shall not lend to him; he shall be the head, and you shall be the tail.”
(Deut. 28:43-44)
“As for My people, children are their oppressors, And women
rule over them. O My people! Those who lead you cause you to err, And destroy
the way of your paths.” (Isa. 3:12)
The only way to curtail this is to proclaim the truth about
these matters, loudly and unapologetically, knowing it will offend many because
they have been blind to these issues their whole lives, and as a result have
broken lives and homes to one degree or another. But the Lord will use the
truth of His Word, and the good news of the Gospel of forgiveness and
restoration to true masculinity and femininity in service to God, to save His
people and preserve them in righteousness.
This changes when we preach the truth on these matters
without fear of threats of persecution, of losing our jobs, of being labeled
haters or extremists or outsiders or sexists or whatever. If we keep preaching the
truth and living godly and honorable lives according to the Truth, the Lord
will bless that, and He will at least bless and preserve those striving to be
faithful and urging others to do so as well.
As things fall apart more and more and we hit new low after
new low, the Lord also uses that as smelling salts for some. What seemed radical,
evil, and insane to us just a few years ago, suddenly receives a closer inspection,
and we begin to realize how wrong we were and how righteous some of these
things are that we misunderstood or failed to examine carefully.
Satan is the father of lies, and his lies are deadly. The
lie of Feminism and Egalitarianism, of flattening out all differences and
distinctions, of superiors and inferiors, etc., has had its deadly leavening
effect for generations in our nation now. But do not despair. While there is
life and breath, there is hope. Repent, turn to the Lord, receive forgiveness,
and receive His strength to serve Him. Study the Scriptures, come and worship
the Lord in a faithful church with likeminded men, women, and families, and
build for something better that glorifies God.
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